When the child is initially placed in your home, he will not become comfortable with you and his new surroundings immediately; even infants may experience a period of adjustment when placed in an unfamiliar environment. A child’s reaction to placement depends largely upon his past experiences. The fact that your home provides a safer and more nurturing environment will not prevent this natural human process. An important point to remember is that the child’s transition into your home will be made easier if you do not take his behavior personally. 

Additional points to remember when a child is initially placed into your home.

• Be patient; don’t expect miracles. 

• The child is attempting to make some sense of new people, new surroundings, and behaviors that are different from what he is accustomed to. 

• No matter how terrible the previous situation was, the child will probably display some sadness and anxiety due to his loss. 

• The child may be unclean and poorly dressed with little, if any, clothing, or the child may be appropriately dressed with an adequate wardrobe. No matter what the child’s condition, do not immediately discard his clothing and other personal possessions. They have special meaning to the child.

• The child may blame himself for what has happened. Assure him this is not the case. 

• The child may be withdrawn, tearful, anxious, angry or overly active and playful. With some children, there will be no obvious effects of the placement. 

• No matter what the child’s behavior or disposition, it is important that you and your family show acceptance, warmth, and most of all understanding during this very difficult time for the child. 

The child’s Case Manager will share additional adjustment pointers with you as each child differs in his response to placement.

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