Below are tips for parenting children from chemically dependent families. 

• demonstrate to children how healthy families organize themselves. Create consistent routines. Involve the child in family activities and planning of celebrations; 
• help children take more control of their own lives. Encourage them to make choices. Set reasonable limits on their behavior. Help them to develop appropriate expectations of themselves.  Remember: they need time to develop these skills;
• lying is often common in chemically dependent families. Children may need help in learning it is OK to tell the truth; 
• many children of substance abusers have been verbally abused. It is also highly likely they may have been neglected and physically or sexually abused.  Touching of any kind may be threatening; 
• children may feel they have no right to their feelings because their parents denied or minimized feelings. They may look for approval by being compulsively helpful and may need help in understanding they have value as a person; and 
• expressions of strong feelings such as love may have occurred only during periods of parental substance abuse. Children, especially adolescents, may seek expressions of feelings through the use of chemicals.  

Source: PRIDE Training