All personal items that a child brings or receives from his or her parents – regardless of condition, appearance, or cost – often have significant meaning to the child. Always allow the child to maintain possession of these items or have free access to them unless an item poses a threat to the child or others. The child should never be expected to give up possession of his or her personal belongings or made to value them less, and should never be criticized because of his or her attachment to these items. Packing a child’s personal belongings in a special place while not being used may satisfy his or her need to secure the belongings and the foster parent’s desire for tidiness in the home. If the child’s lack of neatness is of significant concern, use this as an opportunity to teach him or her how to care for and store personal belongings that hold special value.

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